Years ago I would have babbled out a quick answer, short and sweet and it taking no thought.
Now my answer is, that I am complex and that I am a work in progress and that I am still learning who I am.
Before my answer would have been straight from that inner place of 'programming', of telling you what I thought you needed to hear and what I assumed I was. Through work I have broken down many of the layers and walls that I had wrapped around my heart and mind and what was left behind was my real self. The one that often hid behind a outer layer for protection. Learning who I am is often layered in many shades and complexities and other times is simplicity laid bare. We are often told that to dwell on ourselves is being egotist,
I do not agree. To take the time the effort and to get real with yourself is to learn to be self loving and also to be compassionate, both to you and to others. The old saying ' how can you love another fully if you can't love yourself' is very true. To move into compassion for yourself and not self pity is healing and freeing and hard to do. I find that many people are happy to skirt around engaging in their feelings, because it is to painful or takes to much work on there part. Also we are faced with a society now who seems to be engaged in the external, what there face and body looks like ( supported by so many of the reality T.V. shows ) and how much money they have. We are fractured and broken in ways that require healing on a world wide.
I do believe that change can be effected one person at a time, so as I cannot changed the world but only work on myself and offer those tools to those who also wish to work on themselves; I do so with what I hope is a loving/compassionate heart and a mind willing to continue the work on myself as long as my journey continues.