yards making them 'spooky' and getting their costumes ready for the 31st. I was not bought up with Halloween and I only discovered it when I moved to Canada as an adult, I find it fascinating that adults can't wait to dress up in all sorts of things on this day- they even go to work in costume. It is a time of fun and humor and people seem to smile more on this day, almost like they are free to be who they really are because of the costume they choose to wear.
I think that it is interesting that for a lot of these people this is the only day of the year that they would feel free to be this alter ego, and I think it is because their community is dressing up as well so they have a sense of safety and feel that they will not be judged.
I find that sad that we are so worried about others judging us that we in some part submerge aspects of ourselves that we think may set us apart or deem us as different from the crowd. I feel that we would all be happier and emotionally healthier if we stopped judging ourselves and worrying so much about what others think about us. Really most of the time others are not even thinking about us they are lost in their own internal dialog of self doubt.
I really do feel the world we live in would be a more harmonious one if each individual let go of their fears of being judged and become the authentic self they carry inside of them. We are taught as children to blend and too fit in, to let go of what makes us special because to be special normally left us open to teasing or being bullied. Kids like to feel they belong so they teach themselves to shut down aspects of 'differentness' and so as adults we have a internal contradiction going on, one part of us still wants to be part of that collective group and not rock the boat, while another part of us wants to be different, wants to be a 'me' not a 'us'. We search for our authentic self when all along it has been trapped inside waiting for permission to be free and out there in the world for everyone to see. We then become part of our own problem as well as our own solution, finding and being safe with those different aspects of ourselves and becoming that person regardless of who may stand in judgement of that and being happy and OK with being different.
We all want to fit and feel part of a collective, it is apart of our humanity to want to be in a community and to be surrounded by those who are alike, to increase our own sense of safety; that is the contradiction in us because at the same time we have that voice that need to be different from everyone else.
So I think of Halloween as being that safe time for many to stretch and to perform and to be that unique individual they want to be but feel they can't be in their 'real' life's...So on that note happy upcoming Halloween to all the ghosts/goblins/princesses and super hero's out there..may this one day feed your internal need to be seen.
Just a thought