I must admit I was once like that, busy working and being a mother and wife, one week bleeding into another and my time filled with things I had too do or wanted too do. It was only because fate in the form of a car accident that I slowly had to learn that I could no longer be so busy! it took years for me to realise that my constant fatigue and flu`s where based around my immune system being compromised because of my back injuries from my accident. Slowing down become a necessity and one I fought with myself about needing to do this. On one hand I felt it was a sign of weakness - my inner parental voice- or that I was being lazy and ineffective- societies voice; I actually find it ironic now because so many people cannot wait to retire but if you are a stay at home wife then you are judged by many and from many directions. You suddenly become irrelevant and without a social identity to many, without a opinion of value and regardless of your past work history a bunt of many peoples rudeness in their blatant disregard of you and any expertise you may have had.
In some ways I suppose I add into that perception because when asked, what do you do, I normal say I am a kept woman and laugh, I do not give a resume of my past experience or even go into what I do at home, because really I do not think most people really want to know and also apart of me thinks it is none of their business. it is rare that a stranger or even a family member asks me how I fill in my day or what I am doing to contribute to society or the world, if they did I would like to think I would blow away any conceptions they held. But I find that most people seem to be very superficial in there regard and comments - really most people do not wait around to hear your response to the question ``how are you today`; I know this because I did an experiment one day and every time I was asked that question I said that I was awful! and I had only one person not say ``that`s good`` because they where not listening to me, they where in automotive mode. Sad reflection on the lack of genuine care that is part of society now days.
I truly believe we all have so much to give. That we are unique and have our own talents and gifts to share to a bigger group than maybe our family, but we are blocked from stepping out of our comfort zone to share because of limited thinking around what is considered a Value. I believe a hug is just as valuable as cooking a meal for the homeless, because it is needed just as much as a meal, that listening to another talk without butting in is a value many do not possess, to be present and honest in your intentions hold a value beyond that of money. Too look at another human being and to see that they are as worthy as you or as a actor or athlete ect. is what I aim to do daily, to step beyond both my own ego and preconceptions, to be a better human being. Now that is a role I take seriously.
We are so much more than we think if only we let go of our limited beliefs and step into a higher energy of being a non-judgemental entity who values truth, honesty and honor as being more valuable than the material world we are surrounded with and told to worship.
So as you go forth into your own day, I ask of you to look beyond the face of the people you see, to their essence and to treat them with maybe what I would call `` the one step up approach`` and listen and see with your heart not just your eyes.
Just a thought